Luz Joyce F. Anderson, a Chemistry graduate, taught at universities in the Philippines before settling down to start a family. Since then, she has devoted her life to taking care of her British husband and three wonderful daughters.
“Having spent three quarters of my life in Britain and various European countries, I’ve had the privilege of experiencing their culture, particularly how families behave in their own respective homes with utmost politeness and refinement,” she tells Manila Bulletin Lifestyle in an interview, She adds that one of her daughters, an academic, lived in Geneva, where she spent significant time following her husband’s passing.
Dining with grace
As a result, their family culture has been shaped by English and European influences. “I also learned a great deal from friends in higher brackets of society on how they behave at the table,” she shares.
Her life experiences have inspired her to publish not just one, but three books on etiquette and social graces—“Polite Society: A Guide to Social Etiquette,” “Refined Living: Lessons in Etiquette and Grace,” and “The Art of Dining Etiquette,” These works showcase her deep passion for the subject.
When it comes to proper behavior at the table, Anderson acknowledges that many people will greatly benefit from learning about dining etiquette. “This means being well-mannered, courteous to those one dines with, and refined in their behavior that makes others feel at ease, especially those who may be unfamiliar with dining protocols.”
Despite being influenced by Western culture, she does not overlook Filipino customs. She takes note of how to emphasize refinement in the use of spoon and fork while taking into consideration how to properly eat with one’s hands.
Time to teach
This coming Oct. 12, 2024, Anderson will host a talk titled “Etiquette for the Appetite,” focusing on dining manners and etiquette for ladies aged 12 and up. The event will take place at the Centennial Room of Club Filipino in Greenhills San Juan City, from 1:00 p.m. to 5:00 p.m. A donation of P1,000 per attendee is requested, with proceeds going to her chosen beneficiary.
For her, this initiative feels like a miracle. “I am grateful to Keri Zamora (President of the Metro Manila Mayors' Spouses Foundation and Caring Keri Foundation) who was the impetus in forging ahead. I wanted to contribute to introducing and reviving refinement and finesse in our culture, which has now become dormant. I was delighted that she, too, thinks the same.”
Keri chimes in, “My mom used to teach at the Karilagan finishing school after studying in New York City. So at a young age, I was made aware of table etiquette, sitting properly, and dressing appropriately. This is why Joyce's project is close to my heart.”
When asked what she hopes attendees will gain from her session, the knowledge of silverware handling and learning proper table decorum are her primary goals. “Etiquette enhances the dining experience by fostering elegance while eating and instilling confidence when interacting with people from all walks of life.”
Pay it forward
Good etiquette is for everyone, not just for a particular social class. This is what keeps Anderson motivated, “My inspiration comes from the love I have for Filipino children and mothers of families that their children learn the noble way of behaving because we are a great nation.”
Her work is dedicated to improving lives, with this upcoming talk benefiting the Punlaan Culinary School for Girls which is located on M. Paterno Street in San Juan City. “The mission is to provide underprivileged young women with livelihood and employment skills, work attitude, and Christian values. The graduates are uplifted humanly and spiritually. They perform well in their jobs and are definitely alleviated from poverty.”
Andersen concludes the interview with this reminder, “Etiquette and good manners are essential for human relationships. They are necessary for a dignified society. Possessing these traits not only prevents rudeness but also paves the way for friendship and happiness."
