IT'S THE SMALL THINGS

They say your child ends up becoming your greatest teacher. I never quite knew what this meant until now. Almost five months only into motherhood and I now marvel at things I probably would have only glanced past before. Indeed, having a child does not only teach you to pause and relish in the memories and milestones, it teaches you to never take any minute for granted. Time is truly a thief when it comes to raising children, and at this point, it is about taking it all in, and learning every step of the way.

True to the name of this column, I cannot emphasize enough how much the small things really matter – especially when it comes to babies more so. I have never seen a more heartwarming smile until I met my son, nor has a laugh been heartier and more meaningful. On the converse, a cry has never been more unsettling, nor have sudden panic attacks and nightmares been more frightening. But these are all part of growing, and it is now I realize that I will grow as a mother alongside my child. The only thing I can do is to be the best version of myself because at the end of the day, our children become who we are.

Truly, having a child is your daily reminder that your priorities have shifted, and that is perfectly fine. That sometimes, the needs of others supersede yours and that is part of the cycle of life. More prominently, the fact that your fulfillment these days is found in the happiness of others matters so much, that the mood of your child oftentimes shifts your mindset, and sets the tone for the day as well. It is crazy how much a small human being can change and dictate your life, yet, the greatest satisfaction these days is allowing it to be.

Some days are more tiring than others, but that is nothing new. That is life. They say it takes a village to raise a child, and I could not agree with the saying more. My advice actually would be to use that village – you will need them more than you think – take their lessons in stride, and pocket the best practices, rather, those that resonate with you the most. Never be afraid to ask for help because for first timers, it can most definitely be overwhelming and intimidating, and needing help does not make you less of a mother, nor does it mean you are incompetent. In the same light though, always trust your gut. And now I can say with so much confidence: mother’s instinct apparently really is a thing!