
Actress Maxene Magalona recently talked about "codependency."
On Instagram, she described it as an "excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner."
"A circular relationship in which one person needs the other person, who in turn, needs to be needed. The codependent person, known as 'the giver,' feels worthless unless they are needed by — and making sacrifices for — the enabler, otherwise known as 'the taker,’” she added.
Maxene said that most people grew up in such families and enter the same relationships in adulthood.
"Because we got so used to being heavily dependent on the people around us, we believe codependent relationships are normal and healthy which is why we become fearful and anxious adults who constantly need someone to lean on to for survival," she said.
So the daughter of late Filipino rapper Francis Magalona and Pia Arroyo opened up about her story.
She said that for the past few years, she has been living by herself, seeing only a few family members and close friends who have been very supportive of her and her "healing journey."
"Even though I’ve been alone for a while now, I honestly believe that this has been a very healthy time of growth and transformation which I badly needed in order to come into wholeness," she related.
Maxene said the practice of solitude and spirituality is what truly helped her "heal."
"I can now stand firmly and fearlessly on my own, trusting the Universe with God always in my heart and soul," she declared.
She also said it's "very healthy" and "normal" for families and friends to take some time apart when needed.
However, she highly suggests doing the necessary "self-work" that they need during the break so that when they decide to reconnect with people from the past, they can become a "better human" who can interact with them with "genuine kindness" and "compassion" while still "protecting" their energy at all costs.
"Because if you take a break from each other but don’t do the work to change and grow, then your relationship will remain the same—stagnant, toxic and unhealthy. What was the point?"