"Give yourself to God before you give yourself away."
This is what Maxene Magalona wrote on Instagram recently, relating it's the "most important lesson" she learned from her marriage.
It was only a few days ago when Maxene confirmed her long-rumored split with husband Rob Mananquil.
She believes one of the reasons why most relationships don’t work is because people come into them with unresolved trauma and unprocessed pain from childhood.
"When two wounded souls come together, no matter how great things are at the beginning, they will end up unconsciously projecting their traumas and pain onto each other if neither of them do the inner work to heal," she related.
Then she added: "This is where conscious coupling comes in."
According to her, instead of just dating and courting each other at the beginning of a relationship, Maxene highly recommends her followers of having a very honest conversation about their intentions as to why they want to have a relationship in the first place.
"Get real and vulnerable by discussing things like your past traumas, mistakes and heartaches," she said. "Things that trigger you. Your fears and uncertainties."
She maintained how it's nice to have fun and lighthearted conversations, especially at the start of a relationship.
"But I believe what will truly make it last is when we can just be completely honest with each other and have deep and meaningful conversations—especially the uncomfortable ones," she said. "This will help you determine whether or not you want to continue with the relationship and if you think it will work. This will save you time and unnecessary pain."
Maxene also has messages for the people who are currently in a happy and stable relationships.
"I encourage you to constantly ask each other how you feel and hold space for each other with no judgment. Spend quality time and be present. Cry about your worries & fears and then laugh about them together, too," she said.
"If you are in an unhappy relationship, it’s best to have an honest, heart-to-heart conversation and ask yourselves if it is worth holding on to something that isn’t making your soul smile anymore or if it’s better to just gracefully & lovingly let go so that both of you can move on to the things that are truly meant for you."
For those single, she advised them to focus on working on themselves.
"Embody the traits that you want in a partner. Heal so that you can be a better human. Offer your healing to God and He will bring you in alignment with your soulmate."
She ended her post with: "Never chase. Attract."