Now that her split with husband Rob Mananquil has been made public, actress Maxene Magalona shared how she handled the breakup, seemingly to comfort people who are going through the same process.
On Instagram, Maxene wrote a lengthy post on seven ways to move on after a breakup.
She started with "grieving," relating humans should cry.
"Feel the pain and let it all out. Express your anger and sadness in healthy ways instead of distracting yourself from feeling uncomfortable emotions," she said. "Drown yourself in your tears if you have to but never drown yourself in alcohol or a pool of negative and unhelpful thoughts. Grieving is an integral part of the process. You cannot move on without properly grieving a loss."
Then next, "Pray for yourself and your ex."
She reiterated: "Constantly, sincerely and wholeheartedly."
According to her, no matter how angry or hurt people are, they should learn to pray for themselves and their exes as this will help them soften their hearts and develop more compassion for themselves and others.
"The pain that you are feeling may be intense and overwhelming but as long as you pray, God will help you process your way through it," she related.
After that, she said people should surrender to the present moment and accept the situation as if they chose it.
"It doesn’t matter anymore who is right or wrong—the fact remains that your ex’s vibrational energy is no longer a match to yours and vice versa," she pointed out.
"This is the reason why the relationship is not working anymore. There is no point in pointing fingers. Gracefully and lovingly let go of the relationship."
Maxene advised her followers that they should be grateful for all the lessons they've learned and the knowledge they've gained in the relationship.
"Every relationship we encounter in this world is meant to teach us something about ourselves. Going through heartbreaks makes us stronger, more resilient and a lot wiser," she noted.
The actress also maintained the importance of being understanding.
"Understand that your ex is also just like you—a soul who is figuring its way through this lifetime. Their traumas, pain and suffering are just the same as yours. Try to see them this way instead of a person that you 'own' or 'control' just because you were in a relationship together. (No one owns anyone in this Universe, btw.)," she said.
More than anything, she thinks focusing on one's self would be helpful on moving on.
"Use this as a time of personal growth and development. This is the perfect opportunity for you to turn negative energy into positive energy by healing yourself. Try a new hobby. Exercise. Connect to yourself on a deeper level through meditation. Find God within," she said.
Then Maxene ended her post by telling her fans: "Let go and let God. Move forward with grace and lightness in your heart."
In another post, the daughter of late Filipino rapper Francis Magalona and Pia Arroyo also shared her two cents about losing someone.
She started: "Losing a loved one is a form of trauma that changes us forever. When I lost my Dad to cancer back in 2009, I really felt like it was the end of the world because he was my best friend. The pain felt neverending."
"But what I didn’t realize back then which I now understand is that once you have already lost the most important person in your life, it makes you so strong and wise that it just becomes easier and clearer to end relationships, both romantic and non-romantic, that are not working or flowing anymore. I believe in relationships that flow naturally because I read in the book #TheUntetheredSoul by @michael_a.singer that the love that is naturally flowing between two people is the energy of God. And that is the kind of love that I believe in," she added.
Maxene said that love should grow, flow, and should never be forced.
"I am actually very grateful for the failed relationships I’ve had in this lifetime because I understand that I had to go through all of them so that I could determine for myself the soul connections that I want to keep and let go of the ones that don’t match my energy," she related. "To all the souls I’ve crossed paths with in this lifetime, I give to you my heartfelt thanks."
"Thank you, next! #truthday #truthfairy"