Kris Aquino on love and hate
Published Jun 19, 2018 10:25 am
Having sailed through rough waters in her personal life, Kris Aquino answered with conviction questions on loving and hating, and about almost everything in between.
(From left): Julia Barretto, Joshua Garcia and Kris Aquino (Photo from Star Cinema Facebook page)
Asked if she could eventually learn to love the one she hates, her answer came from the heart.
“When you’re still capable of hating someone you once loved, that means there is still love,” she said in Filipino at the media huddle for her comeback movie, “I Love You, Hater’ where she shares stellar billing with Joshua Garcia and Julia Barretto.
“But when the person doesn’t care for you, it means there is no love anymore.”
She was referring to separate personalities she got romantically involved with.
“I still care about him. To make it clear, the person I do not care for anymore is Bimb’s father. But from where ABS-CBN is located (Quezon City), he can still make me hate him so that means I still have feelings for him,” she said without naming names.
Kris is being linked to Quezon City Mayor Herbert Bautista. Bimby’s father is James Yap.
She continued: “I don’t want to lie. I’m sorry but I’m still annoyed. In fact, I’ve thrown a lot of cell phones out of frustration.”
So how did love and hate figure in her life?
“You don’t let hatred win. I think that’s the number one lesson I’ve learned. If they can still get you to have that emotion of hatred, then they won. So what I’ve learned is that... that is a process. You have to know your enemy and choose your battles carefully.”
She shared how she was able to get her son Bimby’s nod to have a boyfriend in the future.
“About love, with Bimb’s permission I will say this. I told him, ‘Don’t you see, after each scene that Ate Julia is tired what does Kuya Joshua do? He hugs her and he reassures her.’ I said, you’re not always gonna be around to do that for Mama. So can you allow me please to be able to love. Thank you (Julia) because Bimby has a crush on you. He told me, ‘As long as he takes care of you, Mama, and as long as he will love you then it’s okay.’”
With that, she profusely thanked Julia.
“So, that’s because of Julia. Thank you Julia. I owe Julia a million thanks for that. Bimby never allowed me but because he sees Joshua taking care of Julia, he realized that someone should take care of her mom also. So my lesson about love is... love ultimately wins and that you have to take care of that person.”
When someone asked her how coping with love and hate helped her as an actor, Kris delved into “forgiveness.”
“Please don’t get angry if I have to say this. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. It’s not because that person ever said I’m sorry. Forgiveness is not also because the person loved you.
“Forgiveness comes because you give it to yourself, because you want to lessen the burden. I think that’s what I learned, that you don’t have to hear the words I am sorry in order for you to forgive.
“I’ll just say this, ha, because I won’t be Kris if I don’t say it. Just don’t twist the facts. That’s all. I can forgive even those who never said sorry. Just don’t see us as liars.”
And what about lessons in love she thinks hold true until now?
Kris’s reply was instant. “Absolutely nothing,” she quipped, admitting she was all wrong on her perception of love and was sorry she didn’t heed her mother, Cory Aquino’s advice.
“I was wrong because I didn’t listen to my mom. She said that love is ultimately about letting go of yourself and making the other person more important than you. I was never capable of that. Now, at my age, I am. But, at this point, it’s too elusive already. All along, I thought love was hard. If you want that to be true love, it had to be against all odds. I’m wrong because for it to be love, it should be effortless.”
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Having gone for more than two years now without a movie or a TV series, did she miss acting?
While she’s “been active and been working everyday,” Kris said “the acting part was what I truly missed.”
“And I have to hand it to my director. I have not worked with somebody this meticulous. Somebody this young and so brilliant already. She was able to get… I believe, one of the best performances I’ve ever been able to give in my life because she knew the right buttons to push. They gave me a script and on that day that I had to shoot, I became too emotional to the point that my blood pressure reached 160 over 120. I was bed-ridden for three days. That’s how good she is as a director.”
Like her, Bimby missed the ABS-CBN studio, too.
“Bimby told me when we got here in ABS-CBN, ‘I missed this place so much, Mama.’ I said, ‘We’re only visiting, honey Don’t expect anything.’”
So, when will she be back on TV? On ABS-CBN?
“They can see me every night if they want to. I’m online and I have 53 brands supporting me,” was her answer in part.
“I am also a businesswoman. I know that they will not get me for this movie had I not proven myself on digital because the role of the character, as they said, digital empress.
“They wanted that and I was able to give it to them because I am the embodiment of that. I’d like to say that I was able to do it because big business supported me and I’m thankful to them.
“I was forbidden to say more. Normally
I’m not scared of anything but contracts and non-disclosure agreements... I’m scared of that. So I will just say that it will happen much sooner than you expect.”
On JoshLia
Working for the first time with Joshua and Julia, Kris showed admiration for two of the hottest young stars these days.
“I wish that back when I was younger, I became obedient as they are now. They know what the craft is all about. They respect the work,” she said, even relating an incident which revealed how her son Bimby loves Julia.
“Bimb is so in love with Julia, I’m sorry. Josh, he’s just waiting for Joshua to do wrong. He’s waiting in the wings and you know that.
He told me that in seven years when he’ 18, Julia will just be in her ’20s. He said, ‘We can be together.’
“See, that’s how beautiful Julia is. Bimby even kissed him 40 times. Joshua left for rehearsals. Bimb pretended he’s kissing me, he’s comforting me then he kissed Julia on the lips! Kaloka!
“Julia is just so raw and so real. I say this without meaning to offend anybody but my son identifies so much with her. If you have that, that already means you have a gift. If someone can see himself in you in your life experiences, that means you are a good actress.
“Julia has hunger and that is very important,” she intoned. “She’s eager to prove herself (in the industry).
As for Joshua, Kris was honest enough to say that “I got into this movie not really knowing him. But the more I got to know him, I realized why Julia loves him. Number one, he captured my heart because I’m here for my kids eh. I know what it's like to grow up without your mother by your side that’s why he is very genuine. Second, he never forgot his lines. If he missed something, he’ll be the one to tell, ‘Direk, wait, sorry.’ He remained focus despite having three hours of sleep.
“He is amazing because, one, he needs the work. But two, more than that, the work needs him. He is the real deal.
“I’ve seen a lot, I’ve worked with different people. But Joshua Garcia will be here. Some 15, 20 years from now, he will become one of the greatest actors the Philippines ever produced.”
(From left): Julia Barretto, Joshua Garcia and Kris Aquino (Photo from Star Cinema Facebook page)
Asked if she could eventually learn to love the one she hates, her answer came from the heart.
“When you’re still capable of hating someone you once loved, that means there is still love,” she said in Filipino at the media huddle for her comeback movie, “I Love You, Hater’ where she shares stellar billing with Joshua Garcia and Julia Barretto.
“But when the person doesn’t care for you, it means there is no love anymore.”
She was referring to separate personalities she got romantically involved with.
“I still care about him. To make it clear, the person I do not care for anymore is Bimb’s father. But from where ABS-CBN is located (Quezon City), he can still make me hate him so that means I still have feelings for him,” she said without naming names.
Kris is being linked to Quezon City Mayor Herbert Bautista. Bimby’s father is James Yap.
She continued: “I don’t want to lie. I’m sorry but I’m still annoyed. In fact, I’ve thrown a lot of cell phones out of frustration.”
So how did love and hate figure in her life?
“You don’t let hatred win. I think that’s the number one lesson I’ve learned. If they can still get you to have that emotion of hatred, then they won. So what I’ve learned is that... that is a process. You have to know your enemy and choose your battles carefully.”
She shared how she was able to get her son Bimby’s nod to have a boyfriend in the future.
“About love, with Bimb’s permission I will say this. I told him, ‘Don’t you see, after each scene that Ate Julia is tired what does Kuya Joshua do? He hugs her and he reassures her.’ I said, you’re not always gonna be around to do that for Mama. So can you allow me please to be able to love. Thank you (Julia) because Bimby has a crush on you. He told me, ‘As long as he takes care of you, Mama, and as long as he will love you then it’s okay.’”
With that, she profusely thanked Julia.
“So, that’s because of Julia. Thank you Julia. I owe Julia a million thanks for that. Bimby never allowed me but because he sees Joshua taking care of Julia, he realized that someone should take care of her mom also. So my lesson about love is... love ultimately wins and that you have to take care of that person.”
When someone asked her how coping with love and hate helped her as an actor, Kris delved into “forgiveness.”
“Please don’t get angry if I have to say this. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. It’s not because that person ever said I’m sorry. Forgiveness is not also because the person loved you.
“Forgiveness comes because you give it to yourself, because you want to lessen the burden. I think that’s what I learned, that you don’t have to hear the words I am sorry in order for you to forgive.
“I’ll just say this, ha, because I won’t be Kris if I don’t say it. Just don’t twist the facts. That’s all. I can forgive even those who never said sorry. Just don’t see us as liars.”
And what about lessons in love she thinks hold true until now?
Kris’s reply was instant. “Absolutely nothing,” she quipped, admitting she was all wrong on her perception of love and was sorry she didn’t heed her mother, Cory Aquino’s advice.
“I was wrong because I didn’t listen to my mom. She said that love is ultimately about letting go of yourself and making the other person more important than you. I was never capable of that. Now, at my age, I am. But, at this point, it’s too elusive already. All along, I thought love was hard. If you want that to be true love, it had to be against all odds. I’m wrong because for it to be love, it should be effortless.”
Back for more
Having gone for more than two years now without a movie or a TV series, did she miss acting?
While she’s “been active and been working everyday,” Kris said “the acting part was what I truly missed.”
“And I have to hand it to my director. I have not worked with somebody this meticulous. Somebody this young and so brilliant already. She was able to get… I believe, one of the best performances I’ve ever been able to give in my life because she knew the right buttons to push. They gave me a script and on that day that I had to shoot, I became too emotional to the point that my blood pressure reached 160 over 120. I was bed-ridden for three days. That’s how good she is as a director.”
Like her, Bimby missed the ABS-CBN studio, too.
“Bimby told me when we got here in ABS-CBN, ‘I missed this place so much, Mama.’ I said, ‘We’re only visiting, honey Don’t expect anything.’”
So, when will she be back on TV? On ABS-CBN?
“They can see me every night if they want to. I’m online and I have 53 brands supporting me,” was her answer in part.
“I am also a businesswoman. I know that they will not get me for this movie had I not proven myself on digital because the role of the character, as they said, digital empress.
“They wanted that and I was able to give it to them because I am the embodiment of that. I’d like to say that I was able to do it because big business supported me and I’m thankful to them.
“I was forbidden to say more. Normally
I’m not scared of anything but contracts and non-disclosure agreements... I’m scared of that. So I will just say that it will happen much sooner than you expect.”
On JoshLia
Working for the first time with Joshua and Julia, Kris showed admiration for two of the hottest young stars these days.
“I wish that back when I was younger, I became obedient as they are now. They know what the craft is all about. They respect the work,” she said, even relating an incident which revealed how her son Bimby loves Julia.
“Bimb is so in love with Julia, I’m sorry. Josh, he’s just waiting for Joshua to do wrong. He’s waiting in the wings and you know that.
He told me that in seven years when he’ 18, Julia will just be in her ’20s. He said, ‘We can be together.’
“See, that’s how beautiful Julia is. Bimby even kissed him 40 times. Joshua left for rehearsals. Bimb pretended he’s kissing me, he’s comforting me then he kissed Julia on the lips! Kaloka!
“Julia is just so raw and so real. I say this without meaning to offend anybody but my son identifies so much with her. If you have that, that already means you have a gift. If someone can see himself in you in your life experiences, that means you are a good actress.
“Julia has hunger and that is very important,” she intoned. “She’s eager to prove herself (in the industry).
As for Joshua, Kris was honest enough to say that “I got into this movie not really knowing him. But the more I got to know him, I realized why Julia loves him. Number one, he captured my heart because I’m here for my kids eh. I know what it's like to grow up without your mother by your side that’s why he is very genuine. Second, he never forgot his lines. If he missed something, he’ll be the one to tell, ‘Direk, wait, sorry.’ He remained focus despite having three hours of sleep.
“He is amazing because, one, he needs the work. But two, more than that, the work needs him. He is the real deal.
“I’ve seen a lot, I’ve worked with different people. But Joshua Garcia will be here. Some 15, 20 years from now, he will become one of the greatest actors the Philippines ever produced.”