Write it: The joy and value of writing


DRIVING THOUGHTS

 

A guide to survive 'isolation due to exposure’

 

 

Writing is what I do for a living.  I’ve been writing since I graduated from college in the seventies, and have not stopped. 


In the recent past, I’ve introduced writing to people who have never thought of themselves as writing their thoughts. Even if I’ve been teaching writing in many forms to trainees in the Manila Bulletin, introducing it to non-writers is a new experience to me.  I can’t call it “technology transfer” as I do not think these friends will use the skill to become journalists.  Perhaps, two of them will use it to create content for blogs or social media accounts, as is now what almost everyone wants to do.  Generally, I hope they will use the skill to put order in their thoughts.


I’ve dedicated much time away from work to talk about writing (I avoid the word “teach”) to friends who have to make decisions on what comes after a major change.  I always suggest putting thoughts on paper and reading them over and over again – to come to a decision, or to quiet a nagging thought. My friends usually take the suggestion and sometimes show me their essays or journal entries.  Others just talk about it and I guide them on what to write next.  In the process, I’ve learned many things about the value of writing not just to tell a story, but to process a real story in one’s mind.   


Here's what I have learned through my experiences, and through the eyes of my non-writer friends:


Writing serves as a profound tool for navigating life’s complexities, offering solace in times of grief, clarity during decision-making, and a means to celebrate joyous moments. A research I came across said “engaging in expressive writing has been shown to improve mental and physical health, aiding individuals in processing challenges and enhancing well-being.”


In moments of grief, writing provides an outlet to articulate emotions that may be difficult to express verbally. By documenting feelings of loss and sadness, one can process experiences, leading to emotional release and healing. This act of writing not only alleviates stress but also gives a sense of understanding and acceptance.


When faced with decisions, writing allows for the organization of thoughts, enabling one to weigh options and consider outcomes more systematically. I always use writing to come to a major decision.  Write the pros and cons of an issue – like buying a new car – on paper, and you can come to a clearer assessment of what you should decide on.


Journaling can help prioritize problems, fears, and concerns, leading to clearer thinking and more informed choices.
Celebrating successes through writing reinforces positive experiences, allowing you to reflect on their achievements and the journey undertaken to reach them. Documenting these moments not only preserves memories but also boosts self-esteem and motivation.  (It can also serve as the start of one’s memoirs.)


I’ve also suggested writing one’s memoirs, which is a big order to a non-writer.  Yet, getting into it, with the help of many apps now available, holds significant value. Crafting a memoir is a transformative process that leads to self-discovery and personal growth. It provides a structured space to reflect on one’s life, leading to increased self-awareness and a deeper understanding of personal experiences.


Moreover, writing about one’s life can help dissolve feelings of loss, betrayal, regret, and guilt, allowing one to move forward with a renewed perspective.


To writers like me, and now to non-writers like my friends, writing has become a powerful tool for the soul. It offers a means to process emotions, gain clarity, and celebrates life’s journey. Whether through journaling or memoir writing, putting pen to paper can lead to profound personal insights and emotional well-being.


Why don’t you try writing your thoughts on paper or on your laptop, iPad or phone?  If you need some help, email me – pinkycolmenares@yahoo.com.  I like to listen to a new story.