IT’S THE SMALL THINGS
Alex M. Eduque
Mental health. As important a topic as it is, I have realized that it is still quite sensitive to discuss. Taboo even, much more in this country than many others. Maybe it is because we were raised in a culture where some Filipino folklore and beliefs would rather attribute the tell-tale signs of anxiety, depression and other mental illnesses to being possessed, and the like, then seek exorcism as a means of cure, rather than encouraging someone suffering to seek professional help. On the other hand, in western culture, it is a subject given utmost importance to. Having a therapist is not shunned or stigmatized at all, in fact, it is highly encouraged. Personally, I do not know if these differences are brought about by cultural variances, but all I know is that it is not something one should feel the need to hide, be frowned upon, or be embarrassed about.
I am by no means an expert on the subject, but I thought it be important to bring it up, or at least shed some light on it given the many articles I have read lately on the increased rates of sufferers, and calls to hotlines asking for help. I suspect this is due to the current pandemic. Undeniably, the compounded uncertainties the past year and a half has brought upon us is enough to take a toll on anyone, especially on the most vulnerable, and predisposed. Being deprived of your freedom during a lockdown can bring about not only bouts of anxiety, but loneliness as well – most especially to those who live alone. But it affects even those who do not.
As a society, we must never undermine or belittle these cries for help – most especially of those strong, and vocal enough to express themselves. Otherwise, we must be aware of changes in behavior, and we must be sensitive to these, making sure that it will not eventually lead someone to harming him/herself. Without going into detail, our daily routines and decisions have most definitely changed from what it once was pre-pandemic. To some, the change may have been little, but to others, that change may have been drastic. In the same way that people have different coping mechanisms, they likewise do not deal with crises in a uniformed manner. But for as long as we can, we must heed that plea for help – believe me when I tell you that it can change a life. And as someone hoping to contribute to long and lasting change, let us not judge and add to the stigma. Rather, let us realize the process and make an effort to understand what someone else is going through. Let us help battle the notion that it is frowned upon to not fully understand internal crises, and instead, be purveyors and reminders that it is okay not to be okay – a support system exists to take you out of the runt.
I will leave the details and specifics to experts, but I would like to somewhat at the very least impart a message with all of you: that it is very much okay to ask for help – in whatever aspect – when you need it, and seeking assistance is never something one must be ashamed of. In as little as lending an ear to listen, you might be providing the comfort one needs. Or, in encouraging someone to seek professional assistance, you might ultimately be giving another person renewed hope and perspective – armor, which may unknowingly make the biggest difference in their lives.