IT’S THE SMALL THINGS
While I am of the belief that the right love will prevail and will always win, relationships have been tried and tested in the time of COVID-19. Undoubtedly, in the same way that it is no joke to be locked down and in with someone twenty-four seven (especially if you were both used to living busy lives) it is also quite miserable to be separated from your significant other for months on end with plans getting cancelled left and right not knowing when you both will see each other next. Suffice it to say, the pandemic has put a strain on many long-distance relationships, or – in the words of millennials – LDR’s.
When someone suggested I share my thoughts on this, I felt a sudden compulsion. As someone who was in a long-distance relationship for two years in college, and then very recently in the midst of the pandemic once again, the stories I have been hearing on different accounts resonate. For one, while not being physically together grants you the privilege of freedom, there are a lot of sacrifices, that come along, and it can get lonely. Moreover, it requires a certain sense of commitment, dedication and trust. While there are total naysayers who do not believe in long-distance relationships at all – I was once one of them – I will be the first to say that it is most definitely not for everyone, most especially not for the faint of heart. And believe me when I tell you nothing tests it quite like the pandemic.
I am blessed to no longer be separated with my now husband, but I know of a few who still are, and as of the moment, know of no end in sight. I was always firm when I would tell people that it works for as long as you have clear goals and an established “end date.” It is not one that can be “up in the air” or indefinite. I can imagine that it is also very different being in one married, versus not. Whatever the case may be, long-distance relationships are one of the greatest casualties of this pandemic. In a world that was once so open with flights available almost every day, the physical distance could be mended quick through short trips, visits, and vacations. But with today’s border and quarantine restrictions in various corners of the world, it is much more difficult. The world, as we knew it, is most definitely not the same. Travel is not what it once was. Luxury travel has now been put aside for necessity, and even the latter is not that easily accessible.
How long will this go on for? Is the question that we all have, and that we are dying to know the answer to. And it is only when we get the answer to that can uncertainties be concealed. For now, it is but a blessing and a privilege to be in the same place as someone you hold dear, and having had to endure the physical separation in the past, is something I am most grateful for. In the same way that every day is a blessing, these are the small things we may have taken for granted in the past that we should most certainly be extra thankful for these days. And should we come across someone who is having a down day and a lonely moment, let us not hesitate to lend an ear and listen. Listen to their story. It will give them more comfort than you can imagine, and they will remember it forever.