Bea Alonzo discovers how heartbreaks made her stronger

Published October 13, 2020, 4:13 PM

by Stephanie Bernardino

Almost a year after her controversial break-up with Gerald Anderson, actress Bea Alonzo has revealed that she’s back in the dating game again.

“Okay naman siya. Nag-e-entertain siya. Nag-de-date siya. Open siya maging masaya,” said Bea when asked about her current state of heart in her vlog in which she answered questions from her fans.

Asked about her dream guy, Bea said: “A guy who’s madly in love with me.” She has also changed her perspective when it comes to love.

“Dati sinasabi ko lagi mahal ko kasi ‘di ba siempre ‘yun talaga magdadala ng totoong kaligayahan sayo kapag mahal mo. Pero alam mo parang naniniwala na ako sa sinabi ng Nanay ko na mas magiging tunay na masaya ka at magtatagal ang isang relasyon pag pipili ka ng isang taong mas mahal ka kesa mas mahal mo. So nandu’n akó sa mas mahal ako,” she said.

Though she encountered challenges in relationships, Bea said that she is stronger this time. “That I am resilient. That I can survive anything in life. That I am worthy.”

Bea, 32, noted how heartbreaks became the most important “turning points” in her life.

“Right now, I’m fixing beginnings, and I’m actually very excited for what’s in store for me and every day I am learning. There is this intention to be better and I pray na sana this day would bring me more lessons, more wisdom,” she said.

“I guess the point of having turning points and the point of all the heartbreaks or the trials that you have is just to become a better person. And just be mindful of all the learnings that you got from the past heartbreaks or the past trials of your life,” Bea added.

The Kapamilya star also gave a piece of advice to her followers who are going through heartbreak themselves.

“Just do. It won’t come instantly. It won’t be easy. But you just have to take it one day at a time. Just acknowledge your feelings,” she declared. “If you’re still not okay, if you’ve not yet forgiven the person who hurt you, it’s okay because that day will come. Just trust the process. Kasi sometimes we get caught up in a situation where parang feeling mo it’s so painful and parang hindi mo kaya so you go back to stage 1.”

“Personally, ‘yun ang nangyari. But I didn’t trust myself that I could do it. And na-realize ko na kung in-acknowledge ko ‘yung feeling na vulnerable ako, that I need help from friends and family, baka mas nalagpasan ko siya earlier. Baka na discount ko ‘yung masasakit na yugto ng buhay ko. But, of course, I had to learn the hard way but kung maiiwasan naman sana maiwasan mo.”