By Allyza Quirante
During her workshop tour here in the Philippines, author and founder of People Acuity, DeAnna Murphy, shares her advice in making use of strength strategies. Known for penning the self-improvement book, Shift Up!, she empowers readers to understand their needs and strengths to optimize their way of life. These strategies are practical ways to avoid moments of low energy and performance, spanning from work and career growth to even personal relationships.
We got to sit down with her for a special interview on practical parenting tips, in relation to her specialty on strength strategies. Here are three ways to boost your child’s confidence:
Stop giving your power to feel valuable away to anyone else. Your value can’t be taken away by anyone. You are inherently and intrinsically valuable. When you begin to look for the greatness in yourself, and you begin to notice the moments of high energy and performance, notice the places where you make a difference in other people, that’s where the joy is.
2.Every child is unique.
The faster that children begin to see their strengths and own their needs, the more able they are to kind of stand in their own strength. That’s actually what’s amazing. I’m from a big family and my parents were really good at that, and so there’s something about taking the time to see children’s strengths; reflecting it back to them when they’re struggling. The greatest and first question is: “What do you need?” And allowing young people to begin to get curious about that. If children are misbehaving, I guarantee that there’s a need. If you know your need and you own your need, then you can increase your ability to perform from a joyful place.
3.One-on-one: time to reflect.
I learned very young about the places where I was feeling strong and how I could have more of it, because I had a dad who asked me. I think it’s the greatest thing you could do, have one-on-one time. When my children were younger, I actually scheduled in my planner 30 to 60 minutes or two hours with each of my children once a week, and I would do what my dad did with me. It became an opportunity for me to reflect back, [and say] well that’s where your strengths are showing so that they could begin to anchor in their strengths, instead of popularity, getting it right, having the right answers, having good grades because there’s no joy in that.
For full interview